Metaphysical Technology :: possible relationship, and mental healing

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v3x wrote at 13 Feb 2011 10:16 AM GMT: What would you suggest in this situation... let things run its natural course or try to intervene? What techniques, programs, devices would suit best if it is advisable to try to help her in some way.

There is this girl (there always seems to be a girl) who I've really gotten into, and she's really into me, but will not date me. She's told me about a lot of issues she has in her head, and that she doesn't feel like she is capable of being in a serious relationship, and being faithful until these issues are solved. She has confessed to me that she is starting to fall in love with me, but at the same time will not let it continue, and will not allow herself to be captivated by the feeling of love because she can't bare to hurt me. She's also told me that she would hope that I understand, and know that she is trying to solve these issues she has because she wants to be able to be with me, and sees a possible future together if she is able to get a handle on these various mental issues that cause her to see herself in the light that she does. From what I've noticed from past relationships she has been in it isn't that she wants to hook up with every guy she sees. Her cheating on a people in the past seems to be related to her using sex with people who she doesn't care about to prove to herself she is a bad person, and undeserving of a good life. It looks to be more about lack of care, and love for herself rather than her just being horny, and not having self control. She also seems to have issues with feeling subservient where she feels if someone is trying to do anything to her she will not say no because she believes they will just force it on her anyway. It also seems that she has not dated anyone that she cares about *that* much because she believes she will always end up hurting them, and doesn't want to feel the mental anguish of knowing she had someone she loved, who really loved, and she destroyed it.

She is seeking therapy already for these issues, and does want to find a happy content state in life.

If anyone has any thoughts on what I can do on a different level I'm open to ideas.

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